Have you ever paid attention to the words you say to your friends when you’re trying to make them smile or encourage them? We are our friends number one cheerleaders and it takes nothing for us to say words of affirmation in hopes to make them smile, feel better about themselves and remind them of how amazing they are. So here is where it gets interesting…..
I once read that those words that we say to our friends to lift them up, are typically the exact words that we need to hear ourselves. Kind of ironic that the words you may desperately need to hear, are the ones that you freely give to others without thinking twice but wouldn’t fathom it applying to yourself… right?
If you were to say to your bestie, “You have the best personality and everyone loves you!” or “You are such a good friend who always listens to me.” you can imagine her smiling or her face just lighting up. Even just writing those quotations makes me smile! So imagine, if you DID start saying those things to yourself. Talk about a mindset shifter!
So my friend, include yourself as that friend that needs words to smile and what they could be. And if you can’t muster them up yourself, do talk to a friend about it. Share how you’re feeling and what you’re going through. And who knows, maybe what you need is exactly what they need in that moment too.
X, Jenny
